The Secure Self Club:
Become your most
confident secure self
in 120 Days
Become your most confident secure self in 120 Days
An amazing person like you should be able to enjoy peace and confidence in your relationships…
But instead, you find yourself overthinking every interaction, second-guessing yourself, and constantly dealing with a worried feeling in your gut that everyone will leave you.
You spend endless energy trying to make sure other people are happy with you so they don’t reject or abandon you.
Tell me if this sounds familiar…
Instead of feeling confident, sure of yourself, and simply enjoying your relationships, there is a good chance that:
You feel like you have to be perfect to be enough but you are an imperfect person so you never feel like you are good enough.
You’re always on edge trying to make sure you “don’t mess up” by saying or doing something that will push them away.
You stay in unfulfilling or even bad relationships because deep down you are afraid that you are not worthy of finding something better.
You suffer from rejection or a string of failed relationships because your anxiety “ruins everything!”
You bury what you truly want and people please to keep others happy.
When you do express your needs it often comes out with anger, criticism, and frustration.
You keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners who shut down and avoid any time you try and talk about something serious.
You are told you are “too much”
You have spent countless hours and dollars in therapy, reading books, and listening to podcasts to try and make this better but you still feel stuck.
Listen, I get it…
Just like you, I felt frustrated and stuck not knowing how to get past all of the stress or how to become truly confident and secure…
I used to wish that someone could give me concrete, step-by-step actions to take in real life to help me get through situations where my worries got in the way.
I wanted a plan and a structure that would show me, in tangible ways, how to overcome my fears and start living with confidence.
I wanted more accountability and support than therapy was giving me.
I wanted supportive relationships with people who were on the same journey so we could cheer each other on and brainstorm together when we felt stuck.
Most of all I didn’t want theory or “good ideas” anymore. I wanted to truly FEEL lovable, confident, and secure deep within my soul.
BUT SADLY SUCH A SOLUTION DID NOT EXIST, SO I TOOK IT INTO MY OWN HANDS TO BUILD MY OWN “COACHING PROGRAM”, GREW A SUPPORTIVE COMMUNITY, CREATED STRUCTURED PROCESSES FOR EMOTIONAL GROWTH AND TRANSFORMATION, AND EVERYTHING CHANGED!
I went from terribly anxious, insecure, and failing relationships to confident, secure, and thriving relationships. I then spend thousands of hours in training, in therapy sessions with my clients, and thousands more deep in the world's top research to refine my personal program for healing into one that I can offer you!
I call it the Secure Self Club…
The Secure Self-Club is a transformative 120-day coaching program and community designed for people like you who are truly ready to go from anxious and insecure to confident and secure.
This isn’t just another course or coaching program. It’s a comprehensive roadmap that guides you through the exact steps you need to heal anxious attachment, build rock-solid confidence, and finally find peace within yourself and your relationships.
And here is the truth…
Most people fail to experience real change in therapy and coaching. They stay anxious hoping that one day it will “click” and they will feel better.
With that said…
What Makes This Program Different?
Unlike therapy or self-help resources that leave you guessing, the Secure Self Club offers a proven coaching approach built on four essential elements most growth programs overlook:
01
A Clear, Structured Plan
Have you ever felt like you were just talking in therapy, but not really going anywhere? Or finished a book but had no idea what to do next? In the Secure Self Club, we give you a clear roadmap for healing, so you always know exactly where you are in the process and what your next steps are.
You’ll never feel lost or stuck because there’s a structured framework
guiding you every step of the way.
02
Repetition
Becoming securely attached doesn’t happen overnight, and a one-hour therapy session once a week just isn’t enough.
That’s why we focus on repetition, giving you 20+ videos, exercises, and journal prompts you can practice daily. You’ll be creating new, healthy patterns in your brain, not just talking about the old ones.
03
Emotional Experiences
You can’t overcome an emotional wound with logic alone, you have to experience your way through it. That’s why we focus on experiential growth, creating emotionally powerful experiences through coaching and coursework that are designed to truly shift your emotions, not just your thoughts. “You have to grow in the same way you were hurt.”
04
Community
Becoming securely attached can’t happen in isolation. You need connection, accountability, and the transformative experience of being vulnerable with others.
Our weekly group coaching calls and supportive community platform provide exactly that, so you’re never alone on this journey.
The Secure Self Club is not about giving you more information, it’s about giving you a transformation!
The “Secure-Self Journey” will take you through
5 essential stages to become your most secure self...
Awareness
Self-Compassion Skills
Mindset &
Meaning
Relationship
Skills
Maintenance
In this stage, we gently guide you to deeply understand the roots of your worry and insecurity. You'll explore the unmet needs of your "inner child" and begin to see how these unresolved needs may have shaped your attachment patterns.
We also help you become more aware of the insecure attachment cycle, how it triggers you, the meaning you make from those triggers, and the negative patterns it can create in your life. With this newfound awareness, our goal is to empower you with the insight and clarity to begin breaking free from these patterns in the next phases of your journey.
By the end of this phase, our aim is to help you develop a clearer understanding of where your anxiousness stems from, how it creates negative patterns, and provide you with the empowered insight needed to start breaking free.
In this stage, we focus on helping you cultivate deep self-love and expand your sense of self-worth, so you can begin to feel worthy of love and acceptance. This isn’t about surface-level affirmations or temporary fixes that may not work.
Instead, we apply proven methods designed to help you foster genuine feelings of self-love, compassion, and respect for yourself that lead to building a foundation for healthier relationships moving forward.
By the end of this phase, we hope to help you expand your sense of self-worth and develop an authentic feeling of being deserving of love and acceptance.
This is the stage where you’ll likely spend the most time. Here, we help you recognize and rewrite fear-based beliefs you may hold about yourself, relationships, God, and others.
You’ll be guided through a process of connecting with your inner child so you can begin replacing old patterns of fear and worry with new ones that support security and confidence.
You’ll also cultivate what we call “untouchable peace”, an inner calm and confidence you can carry with you no matter what’s happening in your relationships or life.
By the end of this phase, you’ll have the tools to rewrite limiting beliefs and actively build a stronger sense of peace, security, and confidence.
Once you have become a new secure version of yourself you are going to need skills for navigating relationships.
Stage four is where we help you learn step by step exactly how to identify, set, and hold boundaries.
We’ll give you scripts and strategies that you can use right away to transform your relationships. Having “hard conversations” can feel easy and natural if you have the right tools.
This is where we equip you with the tools and strategies to keep your secure attachment strong for the rest of your life.
In each stage, we create transformative experiences that help you build lasting security and confidence so you don’t just think differently, you feel secure from the inside out.
Below are the resources we give you to make that possible...
What comes with the Secure Self Club?
Expert Lead Weekly Group Coaching Calls
Dive deep into transformation. The calls are a safe and supportive place to have your questions answered, share your wins, get feedback when you feel stuck, refill your motivation, and connect with others who are on the same journey of moving from worry and insecurity to confidence and security!
Individual Coaching Sessions
You’ll get personalized feedback, tailored strategies, and actionable advice. You will have someone in your corner the whole time ready to help!
Lifetime Access
Get ever-growing library of videos, exercises, and workbooks that are designed to take you through the 5 stages of growth and transformation. You will never have to wait around for your coach or anyone else to give you direction on what to do next. The self-guided materials make it easy to know what to do day-to-day.
Exclusive Monthly Q&A Calls
Talk with our expert guests and the opportunity to ask questions specific to your journey.
A Supportive Community
Always there to cheer you on when you feel alone or stuck, celebrate your wins, and share in the journey of becoming secure and confident. And the best news is if you sign up now you get to be part of a special select group of individuals.
Unlike therapy or self-help resources that leave you guessing, the Secure Self Club offers a proven coaching approach built on four essential elements most growth programs overlook:
01
A Clear, Structured Plan
Have you ever felt like you were just talking in therapy, but not really going anywhere? Or finished a book but had no idea what to do next? In the Secure Self Club, we give you a clear roadmap for healing, so you always know exactly where you are in the process and what your next steps are.
You’ll never feel lost or stuck because there’s a structured framework
guiding you every step of the way.
02
Repetition
Becoming securely attached doesn’t happen overnight, and a one-hour therapy session once a week just isn’t enough.
That’s why we focus on repetition, giving you 20+ videos, exercises, and journal prompts you can practice daily. You’ll be creating new, healthy patterns in your brain, not just talking about the old ones.
03
Emotional Experiences
You can’t overcome an emotional wound with logic alone, you have to experience your way through it. That’s why we focus on experiential growth, creating emotionally powerful experiences through coaching and coursework that are designed to truly shift your emotions, not just your thoughts. “You have to grow in the same way you were hurt.”
04
Community
Becoming securely attached can’t happen in isolation. You need connection, accountability, and the transformative experience of being vulnerable with others.
Our weekly group coaching calls and supportive community platform provide exactly that, so you’re never alone on this journey.
The Secure Self Club is not about giving you more information, it’s about giving you a transformation!
The “Secure-Self Journey” will take you through 5 essential stages to become your most secure self...
Awareness
In this stage, we gently guide you to deeply understand the roots of your worry and insecurity. You'll explore the unmet needs of your "inner child" and begin to see how these unresolved needs may have shaped your attachment patterns.
We also help you become more aware of the insecure attachment cycle, how it triggers you, the meaning you make from those triggers, and the negative patterns it can create in your life. With this newfound awareness, our goal is to empower you with the insight and clarity to begin breaking free from these patterns in the next phases of your journey.
By the end of this phase, our aim is to help you develop a clearer understanding of where your anxiousness stems from, how it creates negative patterns, and provide you with the empowered insight needed to start breaking free.
Self-Compassion Skills
In this stage, we focus on helping you cultivate deep self-love and expand your sense of self-worth, so you can begin to feel worthy of love and acceptance. This isn’t about surface-level affirmations or temporary fixes that may not work.
Instead, we apply proven methods designed to help you foster genuine feelings of self-love, compassion, and respect for yourself that lead to building a foundation for healthier relationships moving forward.
By the end of this phase, we hope to help you expand your sense of self-worth and develop an authentic feeling of being deserving of love and acceptance.
Mindset & Meaning
This is the stage where you’ll likely spend the most time. Here, we help you recognize and rewrite fear-based beliefs you may hold about yourself, relationships, God, and others.
You’ll be guided through a process of connecting with your inner child so you can begin replacing old patterns of fear and worry with new ones that support security and confidence.
You’ll also cultivate what we call “untouchable peace”, an inner calm and confidence you can carry with you no matter what’s happening in your relationships or life.
By the end of this phase, you’ll have the tools to rewrite limiting beliefs and actively build a stronger sense of peace, security, and confidence.
Relationship Skills
Once you have become a new secure version of yourself you are going to need skills for navigating relationships.
Stage four is where we help you learn step by step exactly how to identify, set, and hold boundaries.
We’ll give you scripts and strategies that you can use right away to transform your relationships. Having “hard conversations” can feel easy and natural if you have the right tools.
Maintenance
This is where we equip you with the tools and strategies to keep your secure attachment strong for the rest of your life.
In each stage, we create transformative experiences that help you build lasting security and confidence so you don’t just think differently, you feel secure from the inside out.
Below are the resources we give you to make that possible...
What comes with the
Secure Self Club?
Expert Lead Weekly Group Coaching Calls
Dive deep into transformation. The calls are a safe and supportive place to have your questions answered, share your wins, get feedback when you feel stuck, refill your motivation, and connect with others who are on the same journey of moving from worry and insecurity to confidence and security!
Individual Coaching Sessions
You’ll get personalized feedback, tailored strategies, and actionable advice. You will have someone in your corner the whole time ready to help!
Lifetime Access
Get ever-growing library of videos, exercises, and workbooks that are designed to take you through the 5 stages of growth and transformation. You will never have to wait around for your coach or anyone else to give you direction on what to do next. The self-guided materials make it easy to know what to do day-to-day.
Exclusive Monthly Q&A Calls
Talk with our expert guests and the opportunity to ask questions specific to your journey.
A Supportive Community
Always there to cheer you on when you feel alone or stuck, celebrate your wins, and share in the journey of becoming secure and confident. And the best news is if you sign up now you get to be part of a special select group of individuals.
In the Secure Self Club, we aim to help you…
Stop feeling like you're "too much" or "not enough" by building unshakeable self-worth that doesn't depend on anyone else's opinion.
Develop a deep trust in yourself, making decisions confidently without second-guessing or overthinking.
Experience relationships without the constant fear of rejection or abandonment, allowing you to show up authentically and fully.
Break free from patterns of self-sabotage and finally believe that you are worthy of the love and connection you crave.
Let go of your past heartbreaks and negative beliefs so you can create space for love that feels safe, supportive, and secure.
Learn to set boundaries that protect your peace and energy without the guilt or fear of losing someone.
Stop wasting time on relationships that drain you and start investing in the ones that uplift, nurture, and bring out the best in you.
Feel truly at home in your own skin, knowing that you are worthy of love exactly as you are, without needing to change or earn it.
Gain the emotional resilience to handle life's ups and downs with grace, so you're no longer at the mercy of your emotions or relationship status.
Rewire your anxious thoughts into empowering beliefs that support your growth, self-love, and the healthy relationships you desire.
Here's what other people are saying...
Show yourself you are worth it
Show yourself
you are worth it
Stop feeling stuck in worry and insecurity and step into a life of fulfillment and peace.
With the Secure Self Club, you're not just investing in a coaching program; you're investing in your future secure self.
Break free from anxious attachment patterns that sabotage your relationships
Overcome childhood patterns that hold you back and build the security and confidence you deserve.
Attract and keep healthy, loving partners
Trust yourself and stop second-guessing your every move
Set strong boundaries without fear of rejection
Create lasting confidence and inner peace
Join us today and embark on this transformative journey—I can’t wait to see the incredible changes in you!
Transform Your Life in 120 Days:
Become Secure, Build Unshakable Confidence, and Step Into Your Full Potential
Transform Your Life in 120 Days: Become Secure, Build Unshakable Confidence, and Step Into Your Full Potential
Discover the roadmap to becoming secure, building unshakable confidence, and embracing inner peace. It’s time to step into the best version of yourself and create the life and relationships you’ve always deserved.
A structured roadmap guiding you through awareness, self-compassion, transformation, and lasting skills.
20+ videos, exercises, and journal prompts, you’ll rewire your brain for healthy patterns.
Get personalized support from an expert coach to build secure and confident relationships in no time.
Weekly group coaching calls and a thriving community provide connection and accountability every step of the way.
Meet Your Coach
Meet Your Coach
Trevor is an internationally recognized coach and therapist dedicated to helping individuals transform anxious attachment into secure, fulfilling relationships. After overcoming his own anxious attachment, breaking his jaw, ending a toxic relationship, and leaving a corporate career at Tesla, he found his passion for helping others build lasting growth, experience transformation, and step into secure relationships.
With a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and advanced training from some of the world's top attachment experts, Trevor has helped thousands of clients around the globe. He’s been featured by the Gottman Institute and has spoken to audiences of over 10,000. As the founder of The Art of Healing, he teaches his unique method "The Secure-Self Journey" to overcome attachment issues to people all over the globe, creating lasting change and healthier relationships worldwide.
If you’re ready to finally break free from worries and step into your secure and confident self, now is the time.
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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
Do I need to be in a relationship for this to work for me?
No, the secure self club is for people in and out of relationships
What if we are already in therapy?
It is your choice if you want to continue seeing your therapist or not. Some find it to be helpful to continue therapy and many also feel it is better to stop therapy to focus fully on the Secure Self Club.
What if I get stuck and need help?
You will have an individual coach who will be there to help you when you get stuck. Simply send them a message and they can give you a little nudge in the right direction. You can also reach out to the community in group coaching calls or through the community platform.
How much time per week will this take?
Group coaching calls last an hour each week. It is not required that you attend each call but attending as many as possible is encouraged. Additionally, it is encouraged to budget in about an hour per week for doing some of the self-guided exercises.
What if I want to book additional sessions?
That works for us! You can book additional individual sessions at a rate of $250 per session anytime you need added support.
Do you offer any guarantees?
Yes, we want to make sure you are happy with your progress. If you do all that the program requires and are not satisfied we issue you a refund. The guarantee is outlined in detail in the agreement.
What about when I am done with the coaching program? Can I still be part of the community?
Yes we would love you to be part of it! We have a special alumni offer that allows past club members to stay involved, contribute to the community, and grow well after the 120 days are over.
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