The Secure Self Club:
Become your most
confident secure self
in 120 Days
Become your most confident secure self in 120 Days
An amazing person like you should be able to enjoy peace and confidence in your relationships…
But instead, you find yourself overthinking every interaction, second-guessing yourself, and constantly dealing with a worried feeling in your gut that everyone will leave you.
You spend endless energy trying to make sure other people are happy with you so they don’t reject or abandon you.
Tell me if this sounds familiar…
Instead of feeling confident, sure of yourself, and simply enjoying your relationships, there is a good chance that:
You feel like you have to be perfect to be enough but you are an imperfect person so you never feel like you are good enough.
You’re always on edge trying to make sure you “don’t mess up” by saying or doing something that will push them away.
You stay in unfulfilling or even bad relationships because deep down you are afraid that you are not worthy of finding something better.
You suffer from rejection or a string of failed relationships because your worrying “ruins everything!”
You bury what you truly want and people please to keep others happy.
When you do express your needs it often comes out with anger, criticism, and frustration.
You keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners who shut down and avoid any time you try and talk about something serious.
You are told you are “too much”
You have spent countless hours and dollars in therapy, reading books, and listening to podcasts to try and make this better but you still feel stuck.
Listen, I get it…
Just like you, I felt frustrated and stuck, not knowing how to get past all of the worry or how to become truly confident and secure…
I used to wish that someone could give me concrete, step-by-step actions to take in real life to help me get through situations where my constant worrying got in the way.
I wanted a plan and a structure that would show me, in tangible ways, how to overcome my fears and start living with confidence.
I wanted more accountability and support than therapy was giving me.
I wanted supportive relationships with people who were on the same journey so we could cheer each other on and brainstorm together when we felt stuck.
Most of all I didn’t want theory or “good ideas” anymore. I wanted to truly FEEL lovable, confident, and secure deep within my soul.
BUT SADLY SUCH A SOLUTION DID NOT EXIST, SO I TOOK IT INTO MY OWN HANDS TO BUILD MY OWN “PERSONAL PROGRAM,” GREW A SUPPORTIVE COMMUNITY, CREATED STRUCTURED PROCESSES FOR TRANSFORMATION, AND EVERYTHING CHANGED!
I went from insecure and in failing relationships to confident, secure, and thriving relationships. I then spent thousands of hours in training, working with my clients, and thousands more deep in the world's top research to refine my personal program for rebuilding confidence into one that I can offer you!
I call it the Secure Self Club…
The Secure Self-Club is a transformative 120-day coaching program and community designed for people like you who are truly ready to become securely attached and confident.
This isn’t just another course or coaching program. It’s a comprehensive roadmap that guides you through the exact steps you need to build rock-solid confidence and self-worth!
And here is the truth…
Most people fail to experience real change in therapy and coaching. They stay stuck, going week after week, hoping that one day it will “click” and they will feel better.
With that said…
What Makes This Coaching Program Different?
Unlike therapy or self-help resources that leave you guessing, the Secure Self Club offers a proven approach based on four essential elements most coaching programs are missing:
01
A Clear, Structured Plan
Have you ever felt like you were just talking in therapy, but not really going anywhere? Or finished a book but had no idea what to do next? In the Secure Self Club, we give you a clear roadmap for emotional liberation, so you always know exactly where you are in the process and what your next steps are.
You’ll never feel lost or stuck because there’s a structured plan
guiding you every step of the way.
02
Repetition
Becoming securely attached doesn’t happen overnight, and a one-hour therapy session once a week just isn’t enough.
That’s why we focus on repetition, giving you 20+ videos, exercises, and journal prompts you can practice daily. You’ll be creating new, healthy patterns in your brain, not just talking about the old ones.
03
Emotional Experiences
You can't overcome an emotional wound with logic alone, you have to experience your way through it. That’s why we focus on experiential growth, creating emotionally powerful experiences through coaching and coursework that are designed to truly shift your emotions, not just your thoughts. “You have to grow in the same way you were hurt.”
04
Community
Becoming a secure person can’t happen in isolation. You need connection, accountability, and the transformative experience of being vulnerable with others.
Our weekly group coaching calls and supportive community platform provide exactly that, so you’re never alone on this journey.
The Secure Self Club is not about giving you more information, it’s about giving you a transformation!
The “Secure-Self Journey” will take you through
5 essential stages to become your most secure self...
Awareness
Self-Compassion Skills
Mindset &
Meaning
Relationship
Skills
Maintenance
In this stage, we gently guide you to deeply understand where your self-sabotaging patterns (anxious attachment) come from. You'll explore the unmet needs of your "inner child" and begin to see how these unresolved needs may have shaped your life and relationship patterns now.
We also help you become more aware of the “Negative Cycle”—how it triggers you, the meaning you make from those triggers, and the negative patterns it can create in your life. With this newfound awareness, our goal is to empower you with the insight and clarity to begin breaking free from these patterns in the next phases of your journey.
In this stage, we focus on helping you learn skills for cultivating deep self-love and expanding your sense of self-worth, so you can begin to feel worthy of love and trust yourself. This isn’t about surface-level affirmations or temporary fixes that may not work.
Instead, we teach you proven skills designed to help you foster genuine feelings of self-love, compassion, and respect for yourself—building a foundation for healthier relationships moving forward.
By the end of this phase, you will have learned how to rely on and soothe yourself so you can start replacing old patterns of fear and worry with new ones that support a sense of security and confidence.
During this stage, we aim to help you recognize and rewrite fear-based negative beliefs you may hold about yourself, relationships, God, and others.
We will teach you how to rewrite negative beliefs and work toward replacing fear and worry with a sense of inner peace, security, and confidence.
We also help you cultivate what we call “untouchable peace,” the kind of peace that you carry with you even when bad things are happening in your life and relationships. It’s peace that is not contingent on the circumstances of your life.
Once you have become a new, secure version of yourself, you are going to need skills for navigating relationships.
Stage four is where we help you learn step by step exactly how to identify, set, and hold boundaries.
We’ll give you scripts and strategies that you can use right away to transform your relationships. Having “hard conversations ” and setting boundaries can feel easy and natural if you have the right tools.
Stage 5 is where we equip you with the tools and plans to ensure you keep your secure attachment strong for the rest of your life.
In each stage, we aim to create transformative experiences that foster deep emotional experiences so that you truly FEEL secure, from the inside out.
Below are the resources we give you to make that possible...
What comes with the Secure Self Club?
Expert Led Weekly Group Coaching Calls
The calls are a safe and supportive place to have your questions answered, share your wins, get feedback when you are stuck, fill up on the motivation you need, and connect with others who are on the same journey!
Individual Coaching Sessions
You’ll get personalized feedback, tailored strategies, and actionable advice. You will have someone in your corner the whole time ready to help!
Lifetime Access
Get an ever-growing library of videos, exercises, and workbooks that are designed to take you through the 5 stages of transformation. You will never have to wait around for your coach or anyone else to give you direction on what to do next. The self-guided materials make it easy to know what to do day-to-day.
Exclusive Monthly Q&A Calls
Talk with our expert guests and the opportunity to ask questions specific to your journey.
A Supportive Community
Always there to cheer you on when you feel alone or stuck, celebrate your wins, and share in the journey of becoming secure and confident. And the best news is if you sign up now you get to be part of a special select group of individuals.
Unlike therapy or self-help resources that leave you guessing, the Secure Self Club offers a proven approach based on four essential elements most healing programs are missing:
01
A Clear, Structured Plan
Have you ever felt like you were just talking in therapy, but not really going anywhere? Or finished a book but had no idea what to do next?
In the Secure Self Club, we give you a clear roadmap so you always know exactly where you are in the process and what your next steps are.
You’ll never feel lost or stuck because there’s a structured plan guiding you every step of the way.
02
Repetition
Building security and self-trust doesn’t happen overnight, and talking about your feelings once a week just isn’t enough. That’s why we focus on repetition—giving you 20+ videos, exercises, and journal prompts that you can practice daily. You’ll be creating new, healthy patterns, instead of just talking about the old ones.
03
Emotional Experiences
You have probably read the books and listened to the podcasts. You are hyper-aware, but you still feel stuck. You don’t need more logical solutions. You need emotional experiences that help you feel confident, self-compassionate, secure, hopeful, and trusting of yourself. That way, you don’t just know all the right answers, but you embody them!
04
Community
Becoming a secure person can’t happen in isolation. You need connection, accountability, and the emotional experience of being vulnerable with others. Our weekly group coaching calls and supportive community platform provide exactly that—so you’re never alone on this journey.
The Secure Self Club is not about giving you more information, it’s about giving you a transformation!
The “Secure-Self Journey” will take you through 5 essential stages to become your most secure self...
Awareness
In this stage, we gently guide you to deeply understand where your self-sabotaging patterns (anxious attachment) come from. You'll explore the unmet needs of your "inner child" and begin to see how these unresolved needs may have shaped your life and relationship patterns now.
We also help you become more aware of the “Negative Cycle”—how it triggers you, the meaning you make from those triggers, and the negative patterns it can create in your life. With this newfound awareness, our goal is to empower you with the insight and clarity to begin breaking free from these patterns in the next phases of your journey.
Self-Compassion Skills
In this stage, we focus on helping you learn skills for cultivating deep self-love and expanding your sense of self-worth, so you can begin to feel worthy of love and trust yourself. This isn’t about surface-level affirmations or temporary fixes that may not work.
Instead, we teach you proven skills designed to help you foster genuine feelings of self-love, compassion, and respect for yourself—building a foundation for healthier relationships moving forward.
By the end of this phase, you will have learned how to rely on and soothe yourself so you can start replacing old patterns of fear and worry with new ones that support a sense of security and confidence.
Mindset & Meaning
During this stage, we aim to help you recognize and rewrite fear-based negative beliefs you may hold about yourself, relationships, God, and others.
We will teach you how to rewrite negative beliefs and work toward replacing fear and worry with a sense of inner peace, security, and confidence.
We also help you cultivate what we call “untouchable peace,” the kind of peace that you carry with you even when bad things are happening in your life and relationships. It’s peace that is not contingent on the circumstances of your life.
Relationship Skills
Once you have become a new, secure version of yourself, you are going to need skills for navigating relationships.
Stage four is where we help you learn step by step exactly how to identify, set, and hold boundaries.
We’ll give you scripts and strategies that you can use right away to transform your relationships. Having “hard conversations ” and setting boundaries can feel easy and natural if you have the right tools.
Maintenance
Stage 5 is where we equip you with the tools and plans to ensure you keep your secure attachment strong for the rest of your life.
In each stage, we aim to create transformative experiences that foster deep emotional healing so that you truly FEEL secure, from the inside out.
Below are the resources we give you to make that possible...
What comes with the
Secure Self Club?
Expert Led Weekly Group Coaching Calls
The calls are a safe and supportive place to have your questions answered, share your wins, get feedback when you are stuck, fill up on the motivation you need, and connect with others who are on the same journey!
Individual Coaching Sessions
You’ll get personalized feedback, tailored strategies, and actionable advice. You will have someone in your corner the whole time ready to help!
Lifetime Access
Get ever-growing library of videos, exercises, and workbooks that are designed to take you through the 5 stages of healing. You will never have to wait around for your coach or anyone else to give you direction on what to do next. The self-guided materials make it easy to know what to do day-to-day.
Exclusive Monthly Q&A Calls
Talk with our expert guests and the opportunity to ask questions specific to your journey.
A Supportive Community
Always there to cheer you on when you feel alone or stuck, celebrate your wins, and share in the journey of becoming secure and confident. And the best news is if you sign up now you get to be part of a special select group of individuals.
In the Secure Self Club, we aim to help you…
Stop feeling like you're "too much" or "not enough" by building unshakeable self-worth that doesn't depend on anyone else's opinion.
Develop a deep trust in yourself, making decisions confidently without second-guessing or overthinking.
Experience relationships without the constant fear of rejection or abandonment, allowing you to show up authentically and fully.
Break free from patterns of self-sabotage and finally believe that you are worthy of the love and connection you crave.
Let go of your past heartbreaks and negative beliefs so you can create space for love that feels safe, supportive, and secure.
Learn to set boundaries that protect your peace and energy without the guilt or fear of losing someone.
Stop wasting time on relationships that drain you and start investing in the ones that uplift, nurture, and bring out the best in you.
Feel truly at home in your own skin, knowing that you are worthy of love exactly as you are, without needing to change or earn it.
Gain the emotional resilience to handle life's ups and downs with grace, so you're no longer at the mercy of your emotions or relationship status.
Rewire your anxious thoughts into empowering beliefs that support your growth, self-love, and the healthy relationships you desire.
Here's what other people are saying...
Discover the skills for building unshakable confidence and embracing inner peace. It’s time to step into the best version of yourself and create the life and relationships you’ve always deserved.
A structured roadmap guiding you through awareness, self-compassion, emotional experiences, and lasting skills.
20+ videos, exercises, and journal prompts, you’ll rewire your brain for healthy patterns.
Get personalized support from an expert coach to become secure and confident in no time.
Weekly group coaching calls and a thriving community provide connection and accountability every step of the way.
Meet Your Coach
Meet Your Coach
Trevor Hanson is an internationally recognized coach dedicated to helping individuals transform anxious attachment into secure, fulfilling relationships. After overcoming his own anxious attachment, breaking his jaw, ending a toxic relationship, and leaving a corporate career at Tesla, he found his passion for helping others.
With a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and advanced training from some of the world's top attachment experts, Trevor has helped thousands of clients around the globe. He’s been featured by the Gottman Institute and has spoken to audiences of over 10,000. As the founder of The Art of Healing, he teaches his unique method "The Secure-Self Journey" to overcome attachment issues to people all over the globe, creating lasting change and healthier relationships worldwide.
If you’re ready to finally break free from anxious attachment, now is the time.
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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
Do I need to be in a relationship for this to work for me?
No, the secure self club is for people in and out of relationships
What if we are already in therapy?
The Secure Self Club is not therapy, but is a coaching program. We are never going to tell you to stop seeing your therapist. The skills in the Secure Self Club may be a helpful addition to the work you are already doing.
What if I get stuck and need help?
You will have an individual coach who will be there to help you when you get stuck. Simply send them a message and they can give you a little nudge in the right direction. You can also reach out to the community in group coaching calls or through the community platform.
How much time per week will this take?
Group coaching calls last 90 minutes each week. It is not required that you attend each call, but attending as many as possible is encouraged. Additionally, it is encouraged to budget in about an hour per week for doing some of the self-guided exercises.
What if I want to book additional sessions?
That works for us! You can book additional individual sessions at a rate of $300 per session anytime you need added support.
Do you offer any guarantees?
Yes, we want to make sure you are happy with your progress. If you attend all of your individual sessions, all of the group sessions, and complete the self-guided materials and are not satisfied we will refund you your money minus $250 for each individual session you have completed. The guarantee is outlined in detail in the agreement.
What about when I am done with the coaching program? Can I still be part of the community?
Yes we would love you to be part of it! We have a special alumni offer that allows past club members to stay involved, contribute to the community, and grow well after the 120 days are over.
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