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STRATEGIES & TOOLS FOR HEALING ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT

Is it Love, or is it Limerence? 😰

Is it Love, or is it Limerence? 😰 by: Trevor HansonPublished on: 07/09/2026

When love feels more like an addiction than a connection, it may be limerence. Explore the signs, why it happens, and how to move toward secure, lasting love.

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Is it Love, or is it Limerence? 😰

Here’s why you keep having the same fight…

Here’s why you keep having the same fight…by: Trevor HansonPublished on: 06/01/2026

Do you and your partner keep having the same painful fight? This post explores the “negative cycle,” why recurring arguments happen, and how unmet attachment needs fuel conflict—plus tools to help you reconnect and feel secure again.

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Here’s why you keep having the same fight…

2 Things You’re Doing That Make Them Shut Down

2 Things You’re Doing That Make Them Shut Downby: Trevor HansonPublished on: 05/01/2026

Struggling to get your partner to open up? It might not be what you think. In this post, we unpack two common habits that can unintentionally push your partner away—criticism and creating an unsafe space for honest communication. Learn how to express your needs without triggering defensiveness, and discover simple, powerful ways to become someone your partner feels safe opening up to. If you want deeper connection and better conversations, this is a must-read.

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2 Things You’re Doing That Make Them Shut Down

Is your anxiety turning them into an avoidant?

Is your anxiety turning them into an avoidant?by: Trevor HansonPublished on: 04/01/2026

Many people feel they keep attracting emotionally distant or commitment-avoidant partners. While it can seem like bad luck, anxious attachment patterns can sometimes contribute to this dynamic. Behaviors such as rushing commitment, seeking constant reassurance, excessive texting, or expressing needs through criticism can overwhelm partners and trigger emotional distance. This can unintentionally create the anxious-avoidant cycle. Instead of assuming your partner is always the problem, it can help to reflect on your own attachment patterns. By recognizing them and communicating emotional needs more clearly, you can move toward healthier, more secure relationships.

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Is your anxiety turning them into an avoidant?

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